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  1. Rob,

    If I could paint a bullseye on this issue, you hit that target with Five Things the Christian Community Needs to Stop! Hopefully, the good that can come out of any shameful discovery is that the Church can confront this issue with strength and love. You have done that my friend and you are to be commended.

    God bless…

  2. John Perkins says:

    What does Christian Fundamentalism have to do with this case study? Thanks.

  3. Lisa W says:

    If the size of this problem were acknowledged in my church, people would be shocked. A friend who is a local counselor tells me it’s probably 60% of our congregation. My own husband struggles with sexual integrity issues and yet we feel like we are the only family affected. It’s apparent the pastors have no training (or time or interest?) in adequately addressing this issue. Most hurtfully, the pastor seems to lack empathy for my situation as a wife. My husband has received little to no care and I have received none–even after asking directly for prayer and counsel. We have found care in the secular community. We are in recovery and my husband has several months of sobriety. We see consistently within our circle, Christians continue to receive inadequate care and the relapse rate is very high. It’s no wonder Chuck Swindoll calls porn a cancer that’s eating the church from within. Your analysis is a good wake up call. We don’t need shame. We need prayer, counsel, and authentic community.

  4. Donna Cannon says:

    The Christian community is very quiet about all of these issues It is time to go to battle and bring out that which is hidden and needs to be addressed. My heart is moved with deep compassion for Josh and his family. It’s full of pain from having to deal with living with someone who has led a double-life and having my own family unit torn apart. It’s very confusing and the community needs to be taught about it, how to deal with it, and most importantly how to avoid it.

    • Rob Jackson says:

      Donna, you’re right. I think the ‘culture war” has distracted us from what’s going on in our own Christian culture. I hope you and others will help me spread the word.

  5. Sharon Barber says:

    Hi Rob, thank you for your insight….sad news….

  6. Gordon G. says:

    We are in the Last Days. The Church has, way-past, reached the lukewarm Laodicean Church-stage. One reason I believe most of the Church today is powerless to combat sexual sin is because they’re indulging in it too. This may come across as bitterness on my part (though I don’t mean it to be) but, now I know why I could never get the help I needed in the past Churches I attended. Whenever I mentioned my “struggles” with sexual sin, it either got down-played or swept under the rug. But, I know that ultimately it’s my choice to Overcome, in Christ YAHUSHUA (JESUS CHRIST). It’s my choice to reject sin and follow the LORD.

  7. Rob Jackson says:

    Gordon, you are not alone. There are others known to Christ who struggle silently while sitting in the pew or speaking from the pulpit. No one is exempt. I pray that we can help open up the lines of communication, rather than continuing to sweep things under the rug. Blessings on your recovery in Christ.

  8. Lori Weary says:

    Great points!! I completely agree. I must also share that I have found that it is nearly impossible to find local counselors (preferably Christian ones) who specialize in or have experience dealing with these type of addictions. It’s a different type of addiction that drugs or alcohol since the ‘substance’ is released from in the brain. Someone who has a sexual addiction (whether porn; fantasy affairs; and/or cheaters) but doesn’t even touch drugs or alcohol would have a difficult time feeling like they belong in a group of such addicts…or working with a counselor who specializes in only those sort of addictions. This is a hidden sin. You don’t even have to exit your home to obtain it anymore. Addicts can completely hide it from the outside world if they want (other than the digital imprint). I’m sadden by how little help there is out there. And the church needs this ministry more than anywhere else.

    • Rob Jackson says:

      Lori, I agree that sex addiction is unique, and that treatment for sex addiction needs to reflect that fact. I wish that our churches had more support groups for sex addiction recovery, and that they were two-tiered: one group led by trained Christian therapists who served the newest in recovery, and a second group led by trained lay facilitators who had at least three years in recovery. These therapists and facilitators would also be under the spiritual oversight of a pastor who was truly invested in this outreach.

  9. Betty D says:

    Thank you, Rob, for your faithfulness to Jesus, your boldness to speak up, your commitment to counsel and teach, helping us learn from others.
    Since seeking you out, our shattered lives seem to become more steady as we together overtly seek HIS righteous path. Thank you for pointing the way… the true way to the foot of the cross, where we desperately cling to stay in this crazy world.

  10. Ann M. says:

    And thank you Betty for inspiring those of us not so far along that it is possible to continue on in marriage and see victory one day at a time.